Joshua Alan Kincaid – Josh for short – hates being the center of attention and does everything he can to blend into the background. Unfortunately, when you’re one good-looking guy, the ladies take notice. One lady in particular – feisty and flamboyant, Fiona O’Reilly – has set her sights on getting Josh out of his shell. A brilliant computer program who wants nothing more than to be a good husband and father, he's got a lot to offer. Instead of me extoling his virtues, let’s let Josh answer some of our questions in his own words:
How old are you?
What is your relationship status?
Nearing the end of my divorce proceedings. Divorce in Texas isn't quick and since my wife and I haven't agreed on custody arrangements for our son, Chad, it's taken a year to finalize. Cindy, my soon-to-be-ex, wants to remarry and move to California. That part’s fine but taking Chad with her isn't.
What is people’s first impression of you?
Most people don't even see me. I'm shy. Have been my entire life and tend to fade into the background.
Name three of your favorite things.
Riding my motorcycle - makes people look at me like I'm mysterious and maybe a little dangerous. Creating an awesome piece of computer code. Playing catch with my son in the backyard.
Name three things that tick you off.
People who make fun of people who are different. I'm a computer security analyst so people who try to hack in and steal from our clients. My ex-wife and her new husband.
What is your best memory to date?
The day my son was born. I helped create this little human being. It made me realize I'm part of the human chain. I'm part of the past and the future and not an island.
What would you like it to say on your tombstone?
He found his strength and his voice. He's someone.
What was your first impression of Fiona?
Fiona was everything I secretly wanted to be... outgoing and friendly. Confident. Full of life and joy. She sparkles when she walks into a room.
If we could only hear your voice (but not see you) what characteristic would identify you?
If I'm nervous, then my stutter. Otherwise my natural hesitancy when talking to someone I don't know.
Are you close to family?
Yes and no. I love them and would do anything for them. I know they have my back as well but I don't think they've ever understood me.
If you could make any one thing happen, what would it be?
Get custody of my son. I want him to have a relationship with his mom - if she wants one - every child should know their parents love them but I want to get him out of that toxic environment.
What kinds of things do you always carry in your pockets?
The usual - wallet, keys, cell phone, but I also carry a USB drive and this thing that opens like a Swiss Army Knife but it's a miniature tool kit.
What inner doubt causes you the most difficulty?
Fiona made me realize that I never believed in myself. Growing up I saw myself as the square peg trying to fit in a round hole. My brothers are outdoorsy and loved the ranching life. They were good at sports. My oldest brother, Nate, played football in college and could have gone pro but chose to be a large animal veterinarian instead. My middle brother, Zack, is a national team roping champion on the rodeo circuit. Me? I was okay at sports but preferred to spend my time tinkering with computers or playing video games. I always felt like I was too different to be loved and truly accepted.
What would make you completely happy?
Marry Fiona, and along with Chad, build a future and family together.
If you had a free day with no responsibilities and your only mission was to enjoy yourself, what would you do?
Hop on my Indian Scout Motorcycle - preferably with Fiona wrapped around me - and tear along the Devil's Backbone. Leaning into the curves, the wind whipping in my face, complete freedom.
Meet Josh Kincaid from "My Texas Heart"
Bonnie Phelps, Author